'My dish was half the price of the others': Coworkers splurge on a $400 work dinner, then guilt-trip their frugal colleague into splitting the bill evenly; they stands their ground and refuse

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  • AITA for refusing to split the dinner bill because my dish was half the price of the others?
  • Last week I went to dinner with work colleagues. The agreement was for everyone to order what they wanted. I ordered a more standard dish and a drink, which I came to about $32. Most ordered appetizers, expensive dishes, desserts and various drinks, and the bill for the table came to more than $400.
  • When the waiter brought the bill, someone suggested splitting it equally. I said I didn't think it was fair, since I had spent less than half of what they had spent. I explained politely, but the atmosphere became strange. Some colleagues said that "the fun is in sharing" and that I was being cheap.
  • I ended up only paying for what I consumed and left a good tip, but since then I feel like some people are avoiding me at the office. One of them even commented that I "ruined the night" and that "adults know how to split the bill without complaining".
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  • I was really uncomfortable paying almost double what I spent. But now I'm wondering: AITA for not wanting to split the bill equally?
  • Redd1tmadesignup ⚫ "You're being cheap" Urgh, that old chestnut again. "I don't think you understand what cheap means. Being cheap means not being able to pay for what you've ordered, but expecting others to subsidise your bill."
  • ThislsAnAccount2306 NTA. Who's cheap? The person who wants to pay what they owe or the person who wants to pay less than they owe through someone else subsidising them?
  • cougarlt⚫ the fun is in sharing Absolutely, as in "sharing food that is meant to be shared". Not as in "sharing other people's bill". NTA
  • Jocelyn-1973. NTA. Everybody has a budget and they make choices accordingly. Splitting is something you all want, or all don't do. I would stop going out with these people.
  • Also a tip for if you are ever in that situation again: go to the bathroom before the discussion about the bill starts (there is always the risk of a majority wanting to split), then to
  • the place where you pay and pay your part and tip. Then inform the others that you just had a text and you need to leave right away, but don't worry, you have just paid your part including a tip for your part.
  • Fearless_Spring5611 ⚫ NTA, but this demonstrates the importance of establishing how the bill should be paid from the start. I would argue that adults do know how to split the bill without complaining and that the starting point of splitting the bill is "pay for your own stuff."
  • Pontius Pilatesss. You are not an a h_le, but that's not how dinners with corporate colleagues work in the US. So a lot of it depends on your location and work environment.
  • If none of them have any say in your future promotions or raises, or have access to the ear of someone who does, then there is no harm and it doesn't matter. If they do, it may end up costing you more than the $30 you saved on the bill.
  • Candid-Pin-4116. Next time, order another two dinners for you to get home, before splitting the bill, to make it even

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